Good Grief People. (Death. The uninvited intruder).

Good Grief People, a deeply moving collection of stories and poems written by Glynis M. Belec; Barbara Heagy; Alan Anderson; Donna Mann; Ruth Smith Meyer and Carolyn Wilker.

DEATH!  The uninvited intruder that robs us of joy in life.

It interrupts your life and slows your plans and goals.  (Donna Mann, page 92 in the book)

This is a book that could claim to be a comforter to all who lose a loved one.  It is that and more.  It is like a comforting hug; an understanding friend.  Within the many experiences I feel there will be at least one with which you can relate, if you have experienced a death in your family, or social circle.

They are stories that could help you deal with the deep trauma of grief, and not be trapped by it.

When we come to accept that death is a part of life.  We can’t escape it, but we can overcome the pain of grief.

Ruth M Belec says it well on page 72. Grief!  We don’t get over it.  Rather, it becomes part of us.  We slowly develop a new normal.

This a profoundly true.  One day at a time, you do what needs to be done.  The hardest part is just getting out of bed, when you would prefer to curl up in a ball and die too.

Death not only robs you of a loved one; it steals your identity.  Suddenly, you are no longer a parent, son, daughter, friend.  Life becomes empty: an empty chair at the table.  Birthdays, anniversaries and special holidays are tinged with sadness.  There are a multitude of new ‘firsts’ as you attempt to regain a normalcy in life.

Barbara Heagy writes, ‘I have learned that grief doesn’t come in nice tidy stages.  It has a twisting path that goes ina and out of healing and new growth, and back into emotional outbursts, anger, and panic.  I may think I am doing just fine and then something will happen that makes me realize I really am not as fine as I thought. (Page 139)

Altogether, a down-to-earth look at, and sharing of death, and the ensuing grief.

Easy to read when you feel you can begin to look at the outside world of life again.

May be purchased on Amazon.ca

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REVIEW – Say Goodbye to Regret by Bob Santos

Regret:  grief or pain tinged with emotion; sorrow or disappointment.  (Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary)

How often have you said ‘if only’ or ‘if I could go back and change that?’

Say Goodbye to Regret is an excellent book to guide you to a place of inner peace.

Regrets deprive us of joy.  Life events kick us down onto a different path in life and we lose our sense of direction.

When we suffer loss or rejection of any kind, we can be incapable of trusting others.  We hide behind our masks and think that because we are coping with life we are deceiving the people around us.  People who care deeply for, and about us; unwittingly keeping them at arms’ length.

We do not recognize the loneliness in our lives because we have chosen to stay in our safe zone. Until we learn to trust, we will continue to be fearful of anyone and everything new that we encounter.

Such phobia is a travesty; robbing us of a life filled with unconditional love and kindness.  God intends us to be trusting and loving, not afraid.

Bob Santos encapsulates these thoughts and many more in his book Say Goodbye to Regret.  I doubt any of us dream of being fearful and lonely, but regrets will keep us locked within our walls of self-protection, as we are not able to make wise choices.  We just don’t know that we are living that way.

Take a therapeutic walk through this easy read book to discover nuggets that could change your life for the better.

I recognized weak areas in my life and so am working on changing them.  It came as a surprise to me, but I am thankful for Bob’s writing on the subject of regret, because it brought some painful areas into the light – prayerfully.

Well worth reading, even if you don’t think have any regrets, this knowledge can equip any of us to help others.

Highly recommended self-help, inspirational guidance.

The publisher provided me with a complimentary copy of this book through BookCrash, in exchange for an honest review.

Patricia