Good Grief People, a deeply moving collection of stories and poems written by Glynis M. Belec; Barbara Heagy; Alan Anderson; Donna Mann; Ruth Smith Meyer and Carolyn Wilker.
DEATH! The uninvited intruder that robs us of joy in life.
It interrupts your life and slows your plans and goals. (Donna Mann, page 92 in the book)
This is a book that could claim to be a comforter to all who lose a loved one. It is that and more. It is like a comforting hug; an understanding friend. Within the many experiences I feel there will be at least one with which you can relate, if you have experienced a death in your family, or social circle.
They are stories that could help you deal with the deep trauma of grief, and not be trapped by it.
When we come to accept that death is a part of life. We can’t escape it, but we can overcome the pain of grief.
Ruth M Belec says it well on page 72. Grief! We don’t get over it. Rather, it becomes part of us. We slowly develop a new normal.
This a profoundly true. One day at a time, you do what needs to be done. The hardest part is just getting out of bed, when you would prefer to curl up in a ball and die too.
Death not only robs you of a loved one; it steals your identity. Suddenly, you are no longer a parent, son, daughter, friend. Life becomes empty: an empty chair at the table. Birthdays, anniversaries and special holidays are tinged with sadness. There are a multitude of new ‘firsts’ as you attempt to regain a normalcy in life.
Barbara Heagy writes, ‘I have learned that grief doesn’t come in nice tidy stages. It has a twisting path that goes ina and out of healing and new growth, and back into emotional outbursts, anger, and panic. I may think I am doing just fine and then something will happen that makes me realize I really am not as fine as I thought. (Page 139)
Altogether, a down-to-earth look at, and sharing of death, and the ensuing grief.
Easy to read when you feel you can begin to look at the outside world of life again.
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