A Sticky Situation

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The past few months in Ontario have been some of the hottest ever recorded.  Temperatures have consistently soared to between 30 – 40 degrees when factoring in the humidity.

The air feels sticky, even steamy leaving some folk labouring to take a breath in the oxygen-deprived air.  Relief eludes us, in fact, it seems that this intense heat has enveloped almost the entire Northern hemisphere locking us into a vortex of unusually high heat.

I liken this weather to life situations.  When trouble hits, whether it is illness, a death, work-related or financial challenges, we are suddenly thrust into the midst of a cloying, uncomfortable placed that depletes our energy and we sink into an abyss of worry or grief.  It is an unpleasant and frightening place to be.  We have to be strong and not give up as we fight to maintain a semblance of normalcy in our lives.

Just as breathing is challenging on a hot, steamy summer day knowing how to deal with life-challenges can be an arduous uphill battle too.

We become so overwhelmed by the turbulent events that threaten our sanity; even our life and wise decision-making can elude us.  That’s when we need help.

The Bible gives us ample encouragement if we choose to read and trust its’ content.  We can find many words to hang on to and calm our troubled spirit and mind.

Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.    Psalm 37:5

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him.  Psalm 37:7

.. those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up (walk) with wings like eagles.  They shall run and not be weary.  They shall walk and not faint.   Isaiah 40:31

Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.  Psalm 30:5

I experienced a particularly horrifying period some years ago.  My life became a battleground as I was alone and rejected.  Jobless and (for a brief period) homeless.  I was tired and hopeless.  Unable to see the wood among the trees as I became more and more dejected.

A chance (methinks it was a God taking control moment) visit to a small church saved me.  I wanted safety and peace.  I was ready to give up.  I sat.  Took a deep breath and asked God for help.

A bible in front of me had a well-worn section and I opened it and read.

The Lord is my shepherd;

I shall not want.

He makes me to lie down in green pastures;

He leads me beside the still waters.

He restores my soul;

He leads me in the paths of righteousness

For His name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,

I will fear no evil;

For You are with me.

Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;

You anoint my head with oil;

My cup runs over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me

All the days of my life;

And I will dwell in the house of the Lord, forever.   NKJV New King James version.

Those few moments filled me with a sense of purpose.  I chose to not give up on my life and determined to seek wise advice, instead of struggling alone.

Whatever you are dealing with, please choose to not give up.  Reach out for help, be it from a church member, a social services agency or a trusted friend.

I found renewed hope and I know you can too.

God loves you just as you are.  Trust Him to be your guide to bring you relief.

Patricia

 

 

 

 

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Good Grief People, a deeply moving collection of stories and poems written by Glynis M. Belec; Barbara Heagy; Alan Anderson; Donna Mann; Ruth Smith Meyer and Carolyn Wilker.

DEATH!  The uninvited intruder that robs us of joy in life.

It interrupts your life and slows your plans and goals.  (Donna Mann, page 92 in the book)

This is a book that could claim to be a comforter to all who lose a loved one.  It is that and more.  It is like a comforting hug; an understanding friend.  Within the many experiences I feel there will be at least one with which you can relate, if you have experienced a death in your family, or social circle.

They are stories that could help you deal with the deep trauma of grief, and not be trapped by it.

When we come to accept that death is a part of life.  We can’t escape it, but we can overcome the pain of grief.

Ruth M Belec says it well on page 72. Grief!  We don’t get over it.  Rather, it becomes part of us.  We slowly develop a new normal.

This a profoundly true.  One day at a time, you do what needs to be done.  The hardest part is just getting out of bed, when you would prefer to curl up in a ball and die too.

Death not only robs you of a loved one; it steals your identity.  Suddenly, you are no longer a parent, son, daughter, friend.  Life becomes empty: an empty chair at the table.  Birthdays, anniversaries and special holidays are tinged with sadness.  There are a multitude of new ‘firsts’ as you attempt to regain a normalcy in life.

Barbara Heagy writes, ‘I have learned that grief doesn’t come in nice tidy stages.  It has a twisting path that goes ina and out of healing and new growth, and back into emotional outbursts, anger, and panic.  I may think I am doing just fine and then something will happen that makes me realize I really am not as fine as I thought. (Page 139)

Altogether, a down-to-earth look at, and sharing of death, and the ensuing grief.

Easy to read when you feel you can begin to look at the outside world of life again.

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Hiatus

Just posting a message to explain my lack of activity, as far as my blog is concerned.  I have broken my right wrist – I am right-handed too, so find typing very awkward.  So, taking this into consideration, I am taking a break from posting on my blog, as well as twitter and linkedin.

But, I’ll be back on a more regular basis, as soon as I am able.

My thanks to all of you, who have sent messages.  I appreciate every one of you – and them.

Patricia

A Time to Reflect

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Thanksgiving.  A time to reflect on all that is important in our lives.

Family.  Friends.  Good neighbors.  Church family.

Safety.  Shelter.  Peace.

Food and drink.

Food, Clothing and Shelter.

Good health.  Good Sleep.  Comfort from pain.

Each year I count the blessings in my life and am so-oh thankful for all that I have.

What could you add to the list above?

Happy Thanksgiving everyone

PATRICIA