Weekly Photo Challenge

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Horizon – The sky, water or empty road ahead depicts the meaning of the word horizon to me.  Perhaps it encompasses a pasture or an expanse of water.  Perhaps the view is merely my back garden.   It is where my eye settles – the furthest point from my physical location.  Thanks to Sara Rosso of The Weekly Post – the initiator of  the idea to share word ideas with that support the photographs.   Patricia

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Are You Being Controlled?

Anyone not of a controlling or abusive nature, finds it hard to understand how somebody can be that way.  A  person on the receiving end of an abuser’s behavior can find it almost impossible to escape, even though it is their deepest desire.  They are too afraid.

One would think it would be just a matter of deciding to get the heck away to safety.  It is not that simple.  Usually, by the time you realize the person you have trusted with your love is an abuser, you have been brain-washed into thinking you are worthless; mentally weak; ugly and not worthy of attention.  You have become a person of no self-esteem.  You no longer have confidence in yourself or your ability to function away from the controller in your life.  In other words – YOU NEED HELP!

So how do you know if your relationship is not healthy?  Consider some of the following:

Do you have to ask for money?

Are you threatened in any way?

Are you made to feel unimportant?  Stupid?  Ugly?

Do you suffer insults?

Can you question your partner without fear?

Are you free to leave the house when you choose?

Do you have to report every move?

Does he/she say they will commit suicide if you leave?

……..  the list can be very comprehensive.  You will be so used to the abuse that you might relate to all these and more, without identifying yourself as a victim.  You accept everything that goes wrong as being your fault – or justify that the other person is really a good person, but cannot help getting angry.  WRONG!

If you are in a safe place right now – check this link.  http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=Power+and+Control+Wheel+PDF&qpvt=Power+and+Control+Wheel+PDF&FORM=IGRE

Then decide if that’s how you want to continue to live.

Patricia

The Darkness Gone

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Watching a sunrise recently, I noticed how the dark clouds of night were gradually replaced with daylight.  It was as if the darkness was a black veil that an unseen hand was drawing aside, exposing the clear sky and the rising sun behind it.

I couldn’t help but make a comparison between the good or evil inside each human.  Like it or not we are all capable of sin (darkness).  We are also able to choose to be people worthy of friendship (light).

Whether you have a religious persuasion or not, how you behave makes the world of difference to those around you.  You can gather or repel people by your behavior.  I would much rather be viewed as someone people want to be around – than be somebody that people repel.

Just as the dark clouds of night withdraw to expose a glorious blue and sunny sky, we can put aside unkind actions, words and behavior, and be someone who is a pleasure to know.  A person worthy of trust and friendship.

Not sure if that makes sense, but I certainly hope you have good people around you, and not folk who manipulate or control.

Have a sunny, bright day.

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Patricia

Serenity to Accept by Elizabeth Maddrey – Book Review

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Karin Reid has no time for God.  Her childhood memories keep her in a vice-like grip of unbelief.  If God was worth knowing, how could He allow her to suffer the abuse she was dealt as a child?

She lives her life ‘on the edge,’ never caring too much about her sexual encounters, nor about having faith in an unseen God.  Then she encounters Jason.  He is a successful and very handsome doctor.  She wants him for herself but his expectations are too high.  He is a Christian, and so a relationship with him means she has to change. Although physical intimacy is each one’s desire, he cannot and will not compromise his spiritual ethics.  Been there – done that and the result was painful.  How can he make her understand?

Karin experiences frustration and confusion as Jason shares her interest in more than a friendship but then withdraws. He is aggravated by her determined efforts to capture his heart by any means necessary, while she cannot fathom his hesitation.

This is a lovely story and an easy read.  The friendship and ultimate relationship between these two professionals makes engaging reading as they tread the very fine line of respectful human relationship.  I found the story engaging throughout and would recommend the book without hesitation.

Disclosure:  I received this book free from the publisher through the BookCrash.com review program, which requires an honest, though not necessarily positive review.  The opinions I have expressed are my own.  I am disclosing this, in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s CFR Title 16, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.

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A Time to Reflect

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Thanksgiving.  A time to reflect on all that is important in our lives.

Family.  Friends.  Good neighbors.  Church family.

Safety.  Shelter.  Peace.

Food and drink.

Food, Clothing and Shelter.

Good health.  Good Sleep.  Comfort from pain.

Each year I count the blessings in my life and am so-oh thankful for all that I have.

What could you add to the list above?

Happy Thanksgiving everyone

PATRICIA

But What Can I Do?

When tragedies and struggles ‘hit’ other people, have you heard yourself saying (or thinking) the words, ‘But, what can I do?’  Maybe you jump right in: perhaps you sit on the sidelines.

I have, especially when I’ve had ‘stuff’ going on in my own life or family.  We tend to retreat into our own world of hurt or need, thinking only of ourselves.  After all, we have to survive.

Being in my senior years, I’ve experienced many times of need, and almost as many times I have received amazing gifts from some pretty awesome people.  Because they heeded an inner sense to help.  I have been humbled by the generosity of others, as well as, by the givers.

So, where am I going with this?  I have learned that to give to others is just as awesome as receiving.  You are rewarded with a smile; thanks; surprise.  It makes you feel good inside.

Friends of ours are going through some major stuff, and in speaking to a family member, she outlined simple ways that people have helped them.

a) money for parking costs at the hospital

b) gas money for the numerous medical, or visiting trips

c) light reading to relieve the boredom

d) light meals for the family at home

e) an offer to drive them to hospital and/or give them a ride home

Small things to consider as we go about our daily routines.

In the Bible – Deuteronomy 24 reminds us to care enough about others that we gladly assist them in their times of need.  The fatherless.  Orphans. Widows, as well as, those we do not know intimately – strangers (our neighbors, extended family and associates too. 

In fact, the world would be a better place if we cared as much about others, as we do about ourselves.

Me?  I bake or cook.  So – when I can I share the results.  I figure that when you are sick, needy or you’ve spent a day at hospital, to have a small snack ready to enjoy on your return home is a real treat.

So, question for you.  What can you do for somebody else today?   Are you willing to share the blessings you receive?

Patricia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Creative Mood

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Unable to work in my garden, I decided I’d be creative in the kitchen.

So, three quiche, one apple pie, one chicken pie and two dozen cupcakes plus a cabbage and onion side dish later  – –  think I’ve accomplished that.  Time to redirect my thinking and determine what I get up to next.

Hope your day is going well and that you are accomplishing more than you’d imagined you would, or could, too.  🙂

Patricia

 

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Last Breath

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The plants in my garden appear to be taking their last breath.

They’d been holding up very well through temperature fluctuations, however, the heavy rain overnight has fixed that.  The flower heads are sodden and sad-looking.  Some plants have fallen down, unable to support the water-logged leaves and petals.  Pretty soon, I will have to resort to cleaning up – which means cutting down, back and clearing out.  It is the time of year I feel a sadness – a kind of loss, and yet the garden and all that is in it needs time to rest from the hard work of growing.

Do you have a sense of loss today?  It could be  a job loss: relationship broken or death of a loved one.  Whatever it is, take the day one step at a time, give yourself time to rest, otherwise everything will overwhelm you.

If you pray – pray to God and ask Him for the strength you need.  He will answer in the way that is best for you.  He is not slow with His answers to your prayers – He is patient with each of us as He leads us to recovery and a new wholeness.

If you have a need and would like prayer, leave your request and it will be done.

Patricia

 

Brooding Mood

After the Storm0010

 

The skies are grey and heavy-looking this morning.  Simultaneously, my mood drops to somber.

I could be thinking of dear neighbors who are dealing with the pending and unexpected loss of a dearly loved father.  Additionally, the mother (his wife – who is disabled), has been diagnosed with aggressive dementia and needs 24/7 care.  She barely knows what is happening around her.  When her husband dies she will need admission to a nursing home.  The family cannot look after her.  So, for them all, it’s a waiting game (not that I mean to make light of their burden).  The home will be sold.  A new life will begin for them all.

Me?  I’ll just have to get used to new neighbors.

What’s your mood today?  Hope it is bright and sunny!

Uh-oh:  the sun has broken through the clouds.   Lots to do.  Bye for now.

Patricia