Thankful for………………..

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Day two of expressing thanks for blessings in my life.

 

I am thankful for my husband, and his wonderful works around our home.

I am thankful for my family; without them I could be very lonely.

I am thankful for wonderful, caring friends who continually encourage and delight me.

Additionally, I am LOVING this weather.  Yes, I know it’s hot – but, hey, it’s summer, and as I am a Canadian winter HATER, I revel in this sunshine and the high temperatures.

Bring it on!

Patricia

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Just Another Thought

 

Skyscapes (11)We recently received our first 2019 calendar.  It features Dennis the Menace (thank you, Sheila Krasowski and Stephanie Miller).  One of the comments inside is “Boy, I wish life came with an eraser.”

Now, that’s a neat concept, don’t you think?  Imagine, being able to rid your life of unpleasant memories; bad decisions, job loss, the death of a loved one, even rejection or addictions.  We might feel less anxious or guilty by doing so.  But, then would that not render us emotionless?  It is the memories of our lives that make us as strong, or as weak as we are as individuals.

In the Christian world, we already have an eraser – of sorts.  God’s spirit gives us strength in all situations, and through His forgiveness wipes away all that ails us spiritually.  All we need to do is to accept Him as the giver of the absolute truth and rely on His promises in the Bible.

The hardest part is deciding to believe it will make a difference.  Trusting is hard.  It makes us vulnerable.  But the Bible is specific.

Jeremiah 29:11 God tells us:  “I will bless you with a future of success, not of suffering.  You will turn (back) to Me and ask for help, and I will answer your prayers.”

That’s a pretty awesome promise.  So, no matter what you are dealing with today, consider a new direction for your life.  God doesn’t promise that troubles will end, but He does promise a strength beyond our understanding if we can let go and let Him help us.

No eraser will be necessary when we decide to place our trust in the One and Only God and his guidance which can be found in the Bible.

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Feeling Thankful

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We all experience storms in our lives.  Some are small, while others can be massively overwhelming.

Hurricane Florence recently slammed through southern states in America, wreaking devastation as it tore over the land.  Many lives were changed instantly and, sadly, recovery for many will be long and exhausting.

Closer to home, my husband and I were dealt our own traumatic blow.  Our washing machine malfunctioned during a rinse/spin cycle causing water to overflow the drum and onto the floor.  It did not limit its’ damaging flow to that one room; it spread into two adjoining bedrooms, down the entire hallway inundating cupboards, the furnace and water heater closets on its journey to the front door.  Not much was left untouched.  The damage has been difficult to deal with.  All the floors had to be removed in order to dry water that had flowed underneath.  Walls were cut away to prevent mold developing and to allow for better drying to the wet areas. There was such a large area to recover, dry and renew that we were forced to move out for days while the insurance team did their remedial work.

As time has passed I have had moments of deep anxiety while considering all the tasks that lay ahead of us.  I cannot imagine the emotional toll that Florence has left behind.

To make a very long story short, as I write we continue the renovations, but at least we have a home which we can restore.  Many folk in those southern states of America have not been as fortunate.  Their homes were either destroyed or inundated with so much flood water as to render them uninhabitable.

The point of my musing is that this incident has shown that no matter what we are dealing with, somebody else is struggling with even greater challenges.  All the more reason for us to be thankful for what we have and to help others whenever we can.  We never know what they are having to contend with in their lives.

Patricia

 

 

 

 

Up With The Sun

Today is cold with a capital C.  The water in the birdbaths is frozen hard and a blanket of frost covers the rooftops and grassy areas around my home.  Silence reigns.  DSC02197

The sun has not quite risen above the treetops, keeping the landscape in shadows.  Slowly, but surely, as the sun moves higher into the sky it illuminates everything in its’ path.  Trees and shrubs appear like magic to enhance the view from my window for another day.

I love to watch the ‘world’ around me wake up, keeping me company.  Armed with my coffee, Bible and writing paper and pen (for those thoughts that, Hopefully, pop into my head), I seat myself by the picture window and watch a new day appear before my eyes.

This (almost) daily routine is what I call my ‘quiet’ time.  I need tranquility in order to start my day well.  The heaviness of sleep gradually fades away and is replaced by (a modicom of) alertness.  As the darkness of night-time succumbs to sunlight I too, slowly emerge from the fog of slumber.  DSC02203.JPG

So, come on sunshine.  Kickstart my day.

I hope that you find some sunshine in your day too.

Patricia

 

Rejecting God

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Reject God! Me? Never!

To date, this year has been fraught with troubles, not least of which has been my health.

My body has been lambasted with chemicals as my rheumatologist tried one medication after another to limit my immune systems’ attack on my body.  All this resulted in terrible side effects, up to, and including complete physical collapse on a few occasions.  I was taken off all medications to determine the next best course of action when my liver enzymes elevated to an unacceptable level.

Needless to say, my body is still wracked with chronic pain and stiffness (rheumatoid and osteoarthritis).

I give no apologies for my verbal rambling above.  Despair overtook weeks ago and I am in a daily battle to overcome depression.  I’ve attended many pity-parties during the summer and fall months.  None helped.  I’ve asked God to take away the gloomy thoughts.  Typically, I whine to Him about my condition and my self-imposed isolation from everything.   ‘Why have you turned away from me? I ask God. ‘Why don’t you help?  I’m so tired of pain and fatigue’.

Oh, what a pain I have been despite committing myself to my daily prayer time, I felt empty and blamed God.

It never occurred to me that I was rejecting God while I whined.  ‘Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Today, I was prompted to do something different.  Looking through my (many) books I found one on devotions for writers.  I misinterpreted it as being a book that would help me return to writing them myself, instead, I discovered it contained inspirational messages for writers.  (A God thing was happening here).

My attention was drawn to the passage ‘Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.’  (Psalm 46:10)

‘Yeah, yeah, I thought, as my glum emotions reacted to the words.  ‘I know, I’ve read that before!’  But, as I pondered the words I realized that my mental attitude had been effectively shutting God out.  He will not be found where there is darkness.  I was rejecting Him, while immersed in my self-pity.  So, here I am, despite the ongoing health challenges and other unexpected events, attempting to direct my thoughts onto a better path.  In effect, centering on God and away from the deep, dark emptiness of depression.

‘Your Word is a lamp for my feet, a light for my path.’ (Psalm 119:105)

Funny, how, after months of wasting energy, this one effort has energized me.  Oh, I’m still fatigued and in pain, but my spirit has been lifted and I am thankful.

God is always available.  He will listen to whatever you have to say.  He accepts you just as you are, no matter what you have done, but He will always step aside when we decide to live life our way.  He is not turning away.  He is waiting to be wanted and loved.

Where is your life leading you?  What small step can you take to change direction?

Nothing changes until you decide you want it to happen.

Perhaps, it’s time to stop rejecting life and start living it.

Patricia

 

 

 

 

True Love

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Oh, to be loved.  Truly loved.

This is the heartfelt longing that many of us experience.  Life can be hurtful when those we care about treat us with disdain.  It can be hard to know our value.

Like many, I have suffered much at the hands of others.  Sometimes deserved; sometimes not.

The emotional toll that such rejection causes is painful and we struggle to make sense of such dislike, or hatred.     The negative energy directed at us can be crippling.  There is, however, a safe place that we can go, if we choose to.

When the bottom fell out of my world I could not have foreseen the outcome.  My heart was broken and yet, one day I was approached by an unknown carer, who took my hand (metaphorically) and led me to a much better place.  A safe haven where true love resided.

I can recall a sense of immense relief on that day.  It felt as if God had stepped in front of me; He picked me up; dusted me off and stood me up causing me to look into His eyes.  His only words were ‘You may not know me, but I know everything about you.  I know when you sit down and when you rise up.  I am familiar with all your ways.’ Psalm 139:1-3

Child, I love you.  I do not concern myself with the things that you have done.  The things that cause others to treat you with disdain.  I love you, just as you are.  All I ask is that you love me, for you are my treasured possession (Exodus 19:5).

Do you need a hug today?  Let God be the provider.

Prayer:  Lord Jesus.  I ask You to come into my heart and life and forgive me all my wrongs.  Please show me the right way to live and to choose wisely.  In Your Name. Amen.

Patricia

 

 

A Sticky Situation

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The past few months in Ontario have been some of the hottest ever recorded.  Temperatures have consistently soared to between 30 – 40 degrees when factoring in the humidity.

The air feels sticky, even steamy leaving some folk laboring to take a breath in the oxygen-deprived air.  Relief eludes us, in fact, it seems that this intense heat has enveloped almost the entire Northern hemisphere locking us into a vortex of unusually high heat.

I liken this weather to life situations.  When trouble hits, whether it is illness, a death, work-related or financial challenges, we are suddenly thrust into the midst of a cloying, uncomfortable place that depletes our energy and we sink into an abyss of worry or grief.  It is an unpleasant and frightening place to be.  We have to be strong and not give up as we fight to maintain a semblance of normalcy in our lives.

Just as breathing is challenging on a hot, steamy summer day knowing how to deal with life-challenges can be an arduous uphill battle too.

We become so overwhelmed by the turbulent events that threaten our sanity; even our life and wise decision-making can elude us.  That’s when we need help.

The Bible gives us ample encouragement if we choose to read and trust its’ content.  We can find many words to hang on to and calm our troubled spirit and mind.

Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.    Psalm 37:5

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him.  Psalm 37:7

.. those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up (walk) with wings like eagles.  They shall run and not be weary.  They shall walk and not faint.   Isaiah 40:31

Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.  Psalm 30:5

I experienced a particularly horrifying period some years ago.  My life became a battleground as I was alone and rejected.  Jobless and (for a brief period) homeless.  I was tired and hopeless.  Unable to see the wood among the trees as I became more and more dejected.

A chance (methinks it was a God taking control moment) visit to a small church saved me.  I wanted safety and peace.  I was ready to give up.  I sat.  Took a deep breath and asked God for help.

A bible in front of me had a well-worn section and I opened it and read.

The Lord is my shepherd;

I shall not want.

He makes me to lie down in green pastures;

He leads me beside the still waters.

He restores my soul;

He leads me in the paths of righteousness

For His name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,

I will fear no evil;

For You are with me.

Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;

You anoint my head with oil;

My cup runs over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me

All the days of my life;

And I will dwell in the house of the Lord, forever.   NKJV New King James version.

Those few moments filled me with a sense of purpose.  I chose to not give up on my life and determined to seek wise advice, instead of struggling alone.

Whatever you are dealing with, please choose to not give up.  Reach out for help, be it from a church member, a social services agency or a trusted friend.

I found renewed hope and I know you can too.

God loves you just as you are.  Trust Him to be your guide to bring you relief.

Patricia

 

 

 

 

You Are a Gift

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I performed a long-overdue task recently.  I sorted through, and categorized a myriad of papers that I have collected over many years.  Yes, a lot!

I write – albeit not always consistently, and I make notes on observations.  I can and will use these in future writing endeavours.

One of the items I found in my mountains of collected thoughts and memories was a birthday card.  The words struck a chord with me because I love the thought that God made each of to His unique pattern.  I’d like to share the words with you and hope that if you are in need of encouragement today maybe this will help.

(Author Unknown)

You are a gift!

God made loving people to do His work on earth,

To give a hug or lend a helping hand.

He gave them words of encouragement, and cheer, and tender hearts that care and understand.

God made loving people to show us day by day

How far the wonders of His love can go.

And all the good they do helps make a better world.

A little bit of heaven here below.

There is no one else like you.

You have gifts that only you can give the world.

You have blessings others can only receive through you.

The Lord designed every detail of who you are,

And the world is blessed to have you in it.

May the Lord guide and keep you safe and well,

And show you how special you are.

Patricia

 

 

 

Spring Flowers

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Each year as winter draws to a close, I eagerly anticipate the arrival of spring flowers; first the snowdrops and crocus, then lilac and primroses, followed by lily of the valley and more.  The icing on the cake is always the sighting of the first robin.  All these bring me joy, because the cold of winter does not thrill me at all.DSC01765 (100x75)

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I always need to curb my desire to begin sowing seeds.  I visualize how I want my garden to look and begin to plan each step.  More and more, I am planting pollinator species.  It saddens me that we are losing bee and Monarch butterfly species.  I now plant with their needs in mind.

Of course late snowstorms often bring my dreaming to a halt, nevertheless, the creative gardener in me cannot be stopped for long.

I love the fresh crisp air; the sounds of birds returning from their winter migration, and the pull of the great outdoors.  To me there is nothing quite like it.  Nature coming back  to life again, after a long cold sleep.

To those of you that do not have the gift of a garden, here are a few pictures of flowers in my garden.

Enjoy.

Patricia

A Stolen Childhood, Eleanor’s Story – review

A review of my book A Stolen Childhood, Eleanor’s Story.

Submitted by Denise Foster of Innisfil.

Thank you so much, Denise.

This was a very compelling book to read.  The main character was a survivor of life, life itself after living a very scarred childhood.  It formulated her adult life, marriage and the lives of her children.

It was in giving her life to God that Eleanor managed to be a survivor.

The book is very well done by author, Patricia E. Day

 A Stolen Childhood, Eleanor’s Story 

Softcover:  $15 Cdn. + shipping by email request from Author (pattersday@gmail.com)

E-book:     https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/308936

                 http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CHQI39U  

 

 

 

 

 

Good Grief People. (Death. The uninvited intruder).

Good Grief People, a deeply moving collection of stories and poems written by Glynis M. Belec; Barbara Heagy; Alan Anderson; Donna Mann; Ruth Smith Meyer and Carolyn Wilker.

DEATH!  The uninvited intruder that robs us of joy in life.

It interrupts your life and slows your plans and goals.  (Donna Mann, page 92 in the book)

This is a book that could claim to be a comforter to all who lose a loved one.  It is that and more.  It is like a comforting hug; an understanding friend.  Within the many experiences I feel there will be at least one with which you can relate, if you have experienced a death in your family, or social circle.

They are stories that could help you deal with the deep trauma of grief, and not be trapped by it.

When we come to accept that death is a part of life.  We can’t escape it, but we can overcome the pain of grief.

Ruth M Belec says it well on page 72. Grief!  We don’t get over it.  Rather, it becomes part of us.  We slowly develop a new normal.

This a profoundly true.  One day at a time, you do what needs to be done.  The hardest part is just getting out of bed, when you would prefer to curl up in a ball and die too.

Death not only robs you of a loved one; it steals your identity.  Suddenly, you are no longer a parent, son, daughter, friend.  Life becomes empty: an empty chair at the table.  Birthdays, anniversaries and special holidays are tinged with sadness.  There are a multitude of new ‘firsts’ as you attempt to regain a normalcy in life.

Barbara Heagy writes, ‘I have learned that grief doesn’t come in nice tidy stages.  It has a twisting path that goes ina and out of healing and new growth, and back into emotional outbursts, anger, and panic.  I may think I am doing just fine and then something will happen that makes me realize I really am not as fine as I thought. (Page 139)

Altogether, a down-to-earth look at, and sharing of death, and the ensuing grief.

Easy to read when you feel you can begin to look at the outside world of life again.

May be purchased on Amazon.ca

https://www.amazon.ca/review/RX9BZWZ729K9V